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  • How to Unlock 30 Days of Family Caregiver Support

    Feeling Seen: Why Daily Encouragement Matters for Caregivers

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    Family caregiving can often be hard. And too often, family caregivers like you carry that weight alone. That’s why we created something to help: a 30-day YouTube Shorts video series filled with daily encouragement.

    Over the past month, we’ve shared a short video with a kind word, a calming tip, or a gentle reminder that you matter too. And the feedback has been heartwarming.

    Short videos may seem like little things, but when you’re caring for others and running on empty, a little support goes a long way.

    How Our YouTube Shorts Help Ease Caregiver Stress

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    We know time is tight. That’s why these daily videos are about 60 seconds long. They’re easy to watch while you’re making coffee or folding laundry. Just one minute can lift your spirits.

    Here’s how short videos can make a big difference for you:

    • They remind you that you’re not alone. Seeing a friendly face and hearing kind words daily can ease isolation.
    • They encourage quick self-care. We share simple tips like: “Take a deep breath,” or “Step outside for a quick break” to help you build tiny moments of rest.
    • They help reframe your day. Sometimes, one positive word can shift your mindset from “I can’t do this” to “I can keep going.”

    And you can rewatch them anytime. Save your favorites. Play them on the hardest days. This is your support, on your timetable.

    Just be sure to watch each video to the end for the most benefit.

    Don’t Miss This Heartwarming Series

    Our 30-day caregiver encouragement series wraps up soon. If you haven’t tuned in yet, there’s still time to catch these videos on our Caregiver Burden Spot YouTube Channel.

    Here are some of the most popular shorts in the series:

    You don’t have to do everything alone. Support doesn’t have to take hours. Even one minute of care for yourself counts.

    Let us know in the comments how you manage caregiver stress.

    Short Videos That Are Long on Support

    We created this series for caregivers like you who give so much and ask for so little. Watching one short video a day may not change your circumstances, but it can change how you feel about them.

    It can also remind you that your well-being matters. As a family caregiver, you’re doing sacred work and you deserve support every day.


    Caregiver Support YouTube Shorts FAQ

    What is the 30 Days of Family Caregiver Support series?

    It’s our YouTube Shorts video series that shares daily encouragement for family caregivers. Each video is about 60 seconds long.

    How can short videos really help with caregiver stress?

    They provide quick emotional support, help with your mindset and remind you to care for yourself, even if just for a few minutes.

    Where can I find the videos?

    You can find them all in the 30 Days of Family Caregiver Support Shorts series playlist on the Caregiver Burden Spot YouTube channel.

    Is the video series free?

    Yes, it’s completely free and produced with family caregivers in mind.

    What if I missed some days?

    No worries. You can go back and watch any video in the series at your own pace.

  • 5 Proven Ways to Manage Caregiver Loneliness

    Getting Unstuck from Caregiver Loneliness

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    In your caregiving journey, you might spend most of your day focused on someone else’s needs. You may have less time to see friends, attend your place of worship or even just talk on the phone. Over time, the quiet moments can start to feel heavy.

    If you’re feeling this way, you’re not alone. It’s good to know that you don’t have to stay stuck in that loneliness.

    In this post, I’ll share five ways to ease caregiver loneliness and help you feel more connected, supported and hopeful. And heads-up: I’ve also included references to a few related Biblical verses I’ve found especially helpful in easing loneliness.

    1. Acknowledge your feelings without judgment.

    The first step in healing from loneliness is to name it.

    Many caregivers feel isolated but don’t talk about it. Some feel guilty for feeling sad or lonely because they believe they should be stronger.

    Other people may think that asking for help is a sign of weakness. I’m reminded of a thoughtless comment someone made to me after my wife of 26 years died suddenly. He said I should “suck it up and keep on going.”  

    Asking for help is a sign of courage, modesty and honesty. — Micah 6:8

    Take a moment and ask yourself:

    • Do I feel emotionally alone, even when I’m physically with someone?
    • Have I stopped reaching out to others because I feel too drained?
    • Do I miss having regular conversations with adults?

    If you answered “yes” to any of these, you’re likely dealing with caregiver loneliness.

    Try writing about your feelings in a journal, praying about them, or talking with a trusted friend or counselor. Just naming the feeling is a powerful step toward healing.

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    It’s important to avoid self-isolation too. An ancient proverb says, “Whoever isolates himself pursues his own selfish desires; He rejects all practical wisdom.” — Proverbs 18:1

    Faith Connection: God never meant for us to carry burdens alone. Even Jesus had help carrying His torture stake.

    2. Join a caregiver support group.

    One of the most helpful ways to combat caregiver loneliness is by connecting with others who understand what you’re going through. You can do this online or in-person.

    Support groups can give you:

    • A safe space to vent without judgment
    • Practical advice from people who can relate to you
    • New friendships that lift your spirits — Proverbs 17:17

    There are many types of groups available:

    • Local support groups at places of worship, community centers or hospitals
    • Online forums like Reddit’s r/CaregiverSupport
    • Video meetings through platforms like Zoom or Facebook Groups

    Even if you only attend once a month, just knowing there are others who “get it” can bring you some comfort.

    Pro Tip: Try searching for “caregiver support group near me” or visit sites like Caregiver.org and With Grayce.

    3. Stay connected to friends and family.

    When life gets overwhelming, it’s easy to pull away from others. But small, consistent connections can ease loneliness.

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    Here are a few simple ways to stay in touch:

    • Schedule a 10-minute check-in call with a friend each week.
    • Text a photo or message to someone once a day.
    • Invite a neighbor over for a short visit and coffee.

    You don’t need big social events to feel less alone. You just need regular, real connection. Of course, when using social media, it’s smart to be careful about sharing personal info with online “friends” you don’t actually know.

    And if you don’t like to “burden” others, remember this: people who care about you want to know how you’re doing. Let them in.

    Be yourself: You don’t have to put on a brave face. You’re worthy of love and care just as you are.

    4. Make time for restorative activities.

    Loneliness can grow when all your energy goes out, and nothing comes back in. That’s why it’s important to do things that can help restore your spirit.

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    Here are some ideas to try:

    • Creative time: Drawing, knitting, journaling, baking — really anything that lets you express yourself
    • Quiet time with God: Prayer, Bible reading, meditation, or listening to calming music
    • Movement: A walk outside, gentle stretching or dancing in the kitchen
    • Entertainment: Watching a favorite show, listening to a podcast or reading a light-hearted book
    • Self-care: A warm bath or energizing massage to help revive your spirit

    It’s okay to take breaks. It’s okay to enjoy something just for you. Even a few minutes a day can make a difference.

    Read more about creating a self-care plan.

    Quick Win: Keep a “joy list” on your fridge with small things that make you smile. Pick one when you’re feeling drained.

    5. Talk to a professional if you’re struggling emotionally.

    Caregiver loneliness can run deep. It can lead to depression, anxiety or feelings of hopelessness. When that happens, it’s important to seek help.

    A mental health professional can help you:

    • Understand what you’re feeling and why.
    • Develop healthy coping strategies.
    • Feel more emotionally stable and supported.

    Many caregivers have benefited from therapy. You don’t have to wait until things feel unbearable to ask for help.

    Therapists understand the unique stress that comes with caregiving. You deserve that kind of support.

    Pro Tip: Look for therapists who specialize in caregiver stress or chronic illness. Ask your doctor for a referral or search Psychology Today.

    You can rise above caregiver loneliness.

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    Caregiver loneliness doesn’t have to define your story.

    Each small step you take toward connection and care for yourself can make a difference. Whether you join a group, call a friend, or just take a five-minute break, you’re investing in your own well-being.

    Even the strongest hearts need rest and relationships. Even if you feel alone right now, you are never truly alone. There’s a whole community here cheering you on.


    Managing Caregiver Loneliness FAQ

    Is it normal to feel lonely as a caregiver?

    Yes. Many caregivers feel isolated due to the demands of caregiving and the loss of personal time or social activities.

    What can I do if I feel like I don’t have time for friends or social groups?

    Start small. Even sending a message or making one phone call a week can help you feel more connected to others. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing.

    How do I find a good caregiver support group?

    Check with local hospitals, places of worship, senior centers, or search online for virtual options. Websites like Caregiver.org and With Grayce offer directories.

    What if I don’t like talking about my feelings with strangers?

    That’s okay. Listening to others in a support group can still help. And you can always start with private journaling or talking to a trusted friend.

    When should I see a therapist for caregiver loneliness?

    If you feel overwhelmed, hopeless or notice changes in sleep, mood, or energy, it’s a good idea to talk to a mental health professional. Don’t wait for a crisis.

  • Shining a Spotlight on Male Family Caregivers

    Men’s Health Month: Where are the male family caregivers?

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    June is Men’s Health Month, a time to spotlight men’s unique health challenges. From June 9–15, we also observe Men’s Health Week, encouraging early detection and treatment of diseases affecting men and boys.

    But there’s one group often left out of this conversation: male family caregivers.

    When we think of caregiving, we often picture a woman. But more men are stepping into family caregiving roles than ever before. And while their numbers are growing, their stories are still too quiet.

    Men face the same stress, burnout and emotional exhaustion as their female counterparts, yet they’re less likely to seek support.

    Let’s take a closer look at the physical, mental and emotional impact of caregiving on men and how we can help them care for themselves too.

    The Quiet Rise of Male Caregivers

    Today, nearly 1 in 3 family caregivers is a man. That’s about 16 million men across the U.S. Many of them are caring for a spouse, aging parent or disabled child. Some work full-time while caregiving and others have left jobs to offer care full-time.

    But because our culture has long seen caregiving as “women’s work,” male caregivers often feel isolated. They might not talk about their struggles or even know where to turn for help. That silence can be costly.

    Today, millions of men are caring for spouses, partners, aging parents, other relatives and friends. The numbers will just keep growing as the population ages and gender roles shift.

    Caregiving is hard, no matter your gender. Male caregivers seem to work more covertly than female caregivers. They may hide their stress or feel like they have to “tough it out.” That kind of societal and self-induced pressure can lead male caregivers to some serious health risks.

    The Hidden Health Toll on Men

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    Male caregivers are often more likely to skip doctor visits, ignore signs of burnout and avoid those dreaded emotional conversations. That can lead to:

    • Increased risk of heart disease and high blood pressure.
    • Weight gain or poor diet.
    • Anxiety, depression and loneliness.
    • Fatigue, sleep problems and substance use.

    Many male caregivers say they feel overwhelmed, angry or helpless, but don’t have a safe space to talk about it. They may also feel uncertain about how to handle tasks like helping someone with bathing or managing medications.

    Over time, the stress adds up. Without relief or support, caregiving can take a serious toll on a man’s mind and body.

    6 Proven Ways Men Can Lower Caregiving Stress

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    If you’re a male caregiver, or love someone who is, here are six simple ways to reduce stress and protect your health:

    1. Don’t go it alone. Join a caregiver support group. Sharing your experience with others who get it can bring welcome relief. Don’t forget that online groups count too.

    2. Create a daily routine. Structure can help ease anxiety. Set simple goals for each day and build in short breaks.

    3. Accept help. It’s wise to ask for help. Let family or friends take over errands, appointments or meals when they offer.

    4. Talk to your doctor. Let your health care provider know you’re a caregiver. That way, they can help you watch for signs of stress or burnout and point you toward helpful resources.

    5. Make time for yourself. Even 10 minutes of alone time can help. That solitude gives you time to listen to music, pray, take a short walk — whatever helps you feel more grounded.

    6. Learn the skills you need. Don’t be afraid to ask for training on medical tasks or personal care. Lifting someone safely or bathing them is a skill. You don’t have to figure it all out on your own.

    Changing the Story: Supporting Male Caregivers

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    We all benefit when we make space for men to be caregivers. That means breaking down stigmas, offering practical tools and acknowledging the work they do with love and strength.

    Places of worship, workplaces and healthcare providers can play a significant role. Some create caregiver ministries, flexible work schedules and outreach that includes men. And friends and family can check in with the men in their lives who are quietly carrying this burden.

    By lifting up male caregivers during Men’s Health Month, we shine a light on their quiet courage and remind them they’re not alone.

    Remember the importance of self-care.

    If you’re a male family caregiver, your health matters too. Taking care of yourself is important. You can explore self-care tips from the Family Caregiver Alliance.

    This Men’s Health Month, let’s support the men who support others every day. Let’s listen, encourage and remind them it’s okay to need help too.


    Support for Male Caregivers FAQ

    Are there caregiver support groups just for men?

    Yes, many local hospitals, churches and online forums offer support groups specifically for male caregivers.

    What are the most common health risks for male caregivers?

    Heart disease, high blood pressure, depression and sleep problems are common among male caregivers.

    How can male caregivers talk to their employers about their needs?

    Start by explaining your caregiving role and ask about flexible work hours, remote options or family leave benefits.

    Can men get paid to be caregivers?

    In some states, Medicaid or veteran programs offer pay to family caregivers, including men. Check with your local area agency on aging.

    How can friends and family support male caregivers?

    Offer to help with tasks, listen without judgment and encourage them to take breaks and care for their health.

  • How to Manage the Financial Stress of Family Caregiving

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    Facing the Cost of Care: Carla’s Story

    The financial realities of family caregiving can hit hard.

    Just a year ago, Carla’s semi-retired husband Mike was still working part-time at the local hardware store. But his diabetes got worse. Then came the stroke.

    Now, Mike needs help with almost everything. Carla helps him bathe, eat and get to his doctor appointments.

    The bills are adding up fast. Between Mike’s new wheelchair, home care supplies and gas expenses for all the doctor visits, their nonretirement savings are almost gone.

    She tried cutting back on nonessential expenses, but that hasn’t eased her financial burden very much. Groceries and Mike’s meds are essential expenses that just don’t wait.

    Carla doesn’t complain. “He’d do it for me,” she says. Still, the worry keeps her up some nights. She prays quietly, asking God for strength …

    Navigating Financial Stress While Providing Care

    Many caregivers pay out of pocket for medical supplies, travel and daily needs with little help. Over time, these costs add up and can cause stress, fear and even guilt.

    Millions of caregivers are walking the same path. This post offers encouragement, practical tips and a few gentle reminders that your well-being matters too.

    Let’s look at the cost of caregiving and how to ease the financial pressure while still providing the care your loved one needs.

    Understanding the Hidden Costs of Caregiving

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    Caregiving often starts slowly. At first, you may just need to run a few errands for a loved one who doesn’t live with you. Then, it escalates cooking and delivering meals, helping with doctor visits and more.

    Over time, the associated costs grow. It’s not a matter of if this will happen, it’s when.

    Here are some common out-of-pocket expenses many family caregivers face:

    • Prescription medications
    • Home safety equipment, like grab bars or walkers
    • Incontinence products and medical supplies
    • Transportation to and from appointments
    • Meal prep or grocery delivery
    • Lost income from reducing work hours or quitting a job

    These expenses don’t always feel big at first. But when you add them up over weeks and months, they can create serious financial stress.

    Pro Tip: Start tracking your caregiving-related expenses. Even a simple notebook or phone app can help. Knowing where your money goes is the first step to taking back your financial control.

    Find financial help you may have missed.

    Many caregivers don’t know there are programs that can help. It’s worth the time to explore available resources. Some could cover costs you’re paying for now.

    Here are a few places to start:

    • BenefitsCheckUp.org – Helps you find federal, state, and local programs like Medicaid, SNAP (food assistance), and utility help.
    • Veterans Affairs (VA) – If your loved one is a veteran, the VA may offer caregiver support, respite care, or a monthly stipend.
    • Area Agencies on Aging (AAA) – These local offices can connect you with free or low-cost services in your area.
    • State Family Caregiver Support Programs – Some states provide training, counseling and small grants to help cover caregiving costs.

    Trust me. Help is out there. I found out that often you just have to know where to look. Read more about my experience with BenefitsCheckUp.org.

    Pro Tip: Don’t be afraid to ask questions. Contact your local senior center or social services organization. They’re equipped to help you find what’s available.

    Set boundaries with your budget — and your heart.

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    When you love someone, it’s hard to say no. You may feel guilty for not doing or giving more. But you have to take care of yourself too.

    Creating a caregiving budget can help you continue giving care without burning out or going broke.

    Here’s how to get started.

    1. List all caregiving costs for the month.
    2. Set a spending limit based on your income.
    3. Look for expenses you can cut or find alternatives. For example, can you access free transportation services or buy medical supplies in bulk to reduce their overall costs?
    4. Revisit your budget monthly.

    Also, be honest with family members. Let them know when the increasing expenses become too much for you to handle alone. Ask if they can help, even in small ways.

    Could someone pitch in for groceries once a month? Could another family member cover one medication cost?

    Pro Tip: Use “I” statements when you talk to family. For example, “I’m finding it hard to keep up with some of the costs. Could we talk about ways to share the expenses?”

    Small Money-Saving Habits That Add Up

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    You don’t need to overhaul your whole life to ease financial stress. Small changes can lead to big relief over time.

    Here are some budget-friendly ideas:

    • Buy generic items. Store-brand medications and products are often much cheaper than name brands.
    • Use community services. Some churches or nonprofits offer free meals, transport, or help with chores.
    • Plan meals well in advance. Weekly meal planning can save on food waste and last-minute takeout.
    • Set up auto-refill prescriptions. This prevents missed doses and extra trips to the pharmacy.
    • Ask about senior discounts. Many stores offer discounts, even on medical supplies.

    You’re doing your best. Finding ways to save on caregiving costs doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice quality or your loved one’s safety. Saving is a way to care for yourself as much as you care for others.

    Start managing the financial stress of caregiving today.

    Caring for someone you love can feel like a full-time job on top of everything else you already have going on in your life. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed by the cost of caregiving. That’s human.

    Start with a phone call, a budget plan or a conversation with your family. Each step moves you closer to relief.


    Managing the Stress of Caregiving Costs FAQ

    What are the average costs of family caregiving?

    Many caregivers spend around $7,000 to $10,000 per year out of pocket. Costs vary based on medical needs, supplies and any lost wages.

    Can caregivers get paid for their work?

    In some cases, yes. Some Medicaid programs and the VA offer payments to family caregivers. Check your state’s programs or talk to a social services organization.

    How can I ask my family for financial help without feeling guilty?

    Use open, honest communication. Focus on the shared goal of caring for your loved one. Start with small asks and build from there.

    Are there free resources for family caregivers?

    Yes. Local area agencies on aging, nonprofits and faith-based groups often offer free support, classes or supplies.

    What’s one thing I can do today to reduce financial stress?

    Start tracking your caregiving expenses. Awareness is the first step toward taking back control and asking for help.

  • Setting Boundaries: How to Say No as a Caregiver

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    Being a caregiver means showing love, patience, and strength. But it doesn’t mean you have to say yes to everything. Many caregivers try to do it all — and end up feeling tired, frustrated or even sick. Saying “no” can feel scary, but it’s a powerful act of self-care.

    Setting healthy boundaries helps you stay strong, so you can give care without losing yourself. It’s not rude or selfish. In fact, it’s one of the most loving things you can do for yourself and the person you’re helping.

    When you say no to taking on additional caregiving duties, you aren’t being mean. You’re being realistic.

    Why Caregivers Need Boundaries

    Caregiving is a full-time emotional and physical job. It can wear you down if you don’t take breaks or ask for help.

    Here are some signs that you might need to set stronger boundaries:

    • Feeling tired all the time
    • Often feeling angry, resentful or sad
    • Having no time for your own needs
    • Saying “yes” even when you don’t want to
    • Relationships outside of caregiving are suffering

    Without boundaries, caregiving can lead to burnout. This can hurt your mental health, your relationships and even your ability to keep caring for your loved one.

    Healthy boundaries help you:

    • Stay balanced and calm.
    • Protect your physical and mental health.
    • Set realistic expectations with others.
    • Avoid resentment and guilt.

    One doctor who became a caregiver for a family member learned this. She says, “it takes a lot of work to resolve the tension between feelings of responsibility.” That’s because caregiving responsibilities often conflict with one another.

    Learn more about protecting your mental health by setting boundaries.

    Key Takeaway: Boundaries help you protect your time, health and energy so you can keep giving care without losing yourself.

    How to Say No With Confidence and Kindness

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    Saying no doesn’t have to be mean or cold. You can speak with both honesty and care. Many caregivers feel guilty turning someone down, but guilt often comes from the fear of being judged.

    To say no with confidence, try these simple tips:

    • Use “I” statements. They could sound something like: “I’m feeling overwhelmed and need to rest tonight.”
    • Be direct but gentle. An example of the direct approach is: “I’m not able to do that today, but maybe someone else can help.”
    • Set limits early. Don’t wait until you’re at a breaking point. Say something early like, “I can help with doctor visits, but I can’t do errands every day.”
    • Repeat if needed. Boundaries take time. It’s okay to say no more than once. Stay firm and calm.
    • Let go of guilt. Guilt is a feeling, not a fact. Remind yourself that caring for you is also important.

    Discover more strategies that can help you say no.

    Know when to ask for help.

    You don’t have to do it all alone. It’s okay to delegate tasks like:

    • Grocery shopping
    • Cleaning or yard work
    • Rides to appointments
    • Picking up medicine

    Know who to ask for help.

    Besides family members, think about asking others like:

    • Friends
    • Neighbors
    • Local caregiver support groups
    • Community resources like respite care

    Key Takeaway: Saying “no” is a way to protect your peace and share the caregiving load.

    Create a routine that supports boundaries.

    Once you start saying no, it’s important to build a routine that supports your new boundaries. You need time to recharge, reflect and enjoy life outside of caregiving.

    Start by identifying your “non-negotiables.”

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    These are things and activities that help you feel good and stay healthy.

    • Daily walk or stretch
    • Quiet coffee time in the morning
    • One night off each week
    • Regular sleep and meals
    • Connecting with a friend

    You might find it helpful to put these on your calendar just like you would any other appointment.

    Check in with yourself regularly.

    You can assess your needs by periodically asking yourself questions like:

    • How am I feeling today?
    • Am I getting enough rest?
    • Are my boundaries being respected?
    • Do I need to adjust anything?

    Also, expect some trial and error. Boundaries may change as caregiving needs shift. Stay flexible, but firm with what you need.

    Key Takeaway: A clear routine makes it easier to keep boundaries strong and reduce daily stress.

    Deciding on Your Next Steps

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    Being a family caregiver is a responsible role. But you don’t have to carry everything alone. Setting boundaries and asking for help when you need it are what make long-term caregiving possible.

    Here’s what you can do starting today:

    • Write down three things you need to protect your health.
    • Practice saying “no” to one non-essential task this week.
    • Talk to a friend or support group about your new boundaries.
    • Reach out to local resources for help and backup care.

    You are doing important work and you deserve to be cared for, too.

    Key Takeaway: Don’t think of boundaries as walls. Look at them as bridges to healthier caregiving for everyone involved.


    Setting Caregiving Boundaries FAQ

    Is it okay to say no even if my loved one gets upset?

    Yes. Emotions are natural, but your well-being matters too.

    How do I deal with people who don’t respect my boundaries?

    Repeat your limit calmly. Consistency builds understanding.

    What if I feel guilty afterward?

    Acknowledge the guilt, but don’t let it lead your decisions. Guilt fades, burnout doesn’t.

    Can boundaries help with time management?

    Absolutely. Saying no to non-essentials frees time for what matters most.

    Where can I find help as a caregiver?

    Local support groups, healthcare providers, and online communities are great starting points.